Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough.
hi I’m currently reading Mark Manson’s article, Love is not enough, on MM.NET. Why isn’t love enough?
In the last few weeks, we’ve talked about a variety of topics including self-love, love languages, and more. Nevertheless, why isn’t love enough?
Let’s check out the full review, please.
The Art of Don’t a F*ck, written by Mark Manson, is a well-known book. Try it out if you haven’t already. This book, in my opinion, is a light read that has had a profound impact on my life.
It was in 1967 that John Lennon wrote “All You Need Is Love,” a song about the importance of a loving relationship.
Other crimes include: physically and verbally abusing both of his wives, neglecting to provide for one of his children, verbally abusing his gay Jewish manager and having a camera crew film him naked in his bed for an entire day.
Trent Reznor of Nine Inch Nails wrote a song called “Love Is Not Enough” thirty-five years later.
Despite his infamous stage performances and disturbing videos, Trent Reznor quit using drugs and alcohol, married and had two children with a single woman, and then postponed the release of new music so that he could devote more time to being a good husband and father.
One of these men understood love clearly and realistically. One didn’t. One of these men saw love as the panacea for all his issues. One didn’t. Probably one of these men was a narcissist. One wasn’t.
Our culture idealizes love. We see it as some lofty panacea for life’s ills. Our movies, stories, and history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the end of all our suffering. We overvalue love because we idealize it. So our relationships pay the price.
If we believe “all we need is love,” we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values like respect, humility, and loyalty to those we love. After all, if love solves everything, why bother with the rest of it?
But if we agree with Reznor that “love is not enough,” we know that healthy relationships require more than just pure emotion. We recognize that there are more important things in life and relationships than love. And our relationships’ success depends on these deeper values.
Idealizing love has the unintended consequence of instilling in us a distorted view of what love is and what it can do for us. As a result, we end up damaging the very relationships we care about most.
The problem with romanticizing love is that it instills irrational notions of what love is and what it can accomplish in our hearts. Once our expectations are too high, they end up destroying the very relationships we care about most.
Just because you’ve fallen in love with someone doesn’t mean they’ll make a good long-term partner. The experience of falling in love is a highly charged one. Compatibility is a logical step in the development of a product. And the two don’t mesh very well together, to put it mildly.
Even if the person you fall in love with doesn’t treat you well, or makes you feel bad about yourself, or doesn’t respect you as much as you do, it’s still possible to fall in love with them.
It’s possible to fall in love with someone who has different aspirations or life goals from our own, or who holds different philosophical beliefs or worldviews from our own.
It’s possible to fall in love with a person who has our best interests at heart, even if they don’t reciprocate our feelings. However, it is true.
Everything feels right until you realize love isn’t enough. Thank you, Mark Manson, for enlightenment on these matters.
See you in next episode everyone ❤️
StylePortal.co is Asia’s leading fashion portal — the one portal that brings all you need to know about the latest news in fashion. You may want to explore the newest Brands, shop for Men’s, Women’s or Kid’s fashion. Or you’d like to reach a wider audience for your brand by partnering with us. Style Portal seeks to Elevate Brands and Redefine Closets.